Playful Domination

Not resonating with the serious kink archetypes you see in media and beyond? Want the freedom to laugh, smile, and express joy in your scenes? Do you desire mischievousness, teasing, or games within your dynamic? Perhaps a more playful Domination style might be up your alley.

What lots of folks don't realize, is that the way you practice kink can be as light in mood as you like. In this blog, we'll explore the variety of ways Playful Domination can look and feel.

Embracing the Joy

Kink scenes can be a great vessel for experiencing specific emotions, and though lots of folks choose to explore darker themes, playing with positive energy can be just as erotic, captivating, and fulfilling. This can look like encouraging your submissive through their pleasure, creating space to smile or laugh throughout play, or choosing a power dynamic that feels more wholesome or lighter in mood. You can frame everything as a special little treat, and make sure you call them a good pet while they're getting it.

Catharsis

Some people are drawn to certain kink activities because they want to have a good laugh, like tickling for example. Both players are making each other giggle in an endless feedback loop, which leads to a cathartic emotional release, just like screaming or crying would. People tend to shy away from laughter during their kink scenes, for fear of "ruining the mood", but laughing together can be one of the best ways to release stagnant energy.

Bratting

Sometimes when your submissive gives off a bratty energy, you can't help but brat back. This could mean turning the tables by denying them the reaction they want, in hopes of eliciting the reaction that you're looking for instead. For instance, your play partner asks, "Is that all you got?" and instead of giving them more intensity, you give them less, leaving them a whiny unsatisfied mess. The perfect opportunity to playfully tease or mock them, because their little game didn't work this time.

Role Play

Roleplays can be a great container for bringing out your playful side, through silly justifications, surprising improved lines, and a fun narrative arch. Take the opportunity to play a different role than usual, and explore a nostalgic reference, a common D/s archetype, or even a wild fantasy. Extra points for being so amusing that you make your partner break character.

Light Mood, Heavy Activity

People might assume that because the mood is light, the physical intensity also has to be. But that's not necessarily the case. In fact, a sweet or playful mood mixed with heavier physical play is an intoxicating combination. This could mean some faux sympathy during pain play, lightly teasing about their predicament during an overstim scene, or simply doing verbal humiliation in a softer tone of voice.

Gamifying

Some folks enjoy a bit of intellectual stimulation during their kink scenes, which can often lead to playing games, engaging in problem solving, or establishing challenges. This "game within a game" format might be desirable to people that like to earn their rewards or punishments. Depending on what your play partner wants as an outcome, you can play around with either fixed or random scenarios. And remember, the Dominant can change the rules at any time, for any reason.

Dad Jokes

You've heard of a Daddy Dom, but what if your Dominant veers more into "Dad" territory? Making you groan in a whole different way, the "Dad" archetype favours puns, cheesy jokes, and is generally cringe worthy in energy. This pairs especially well with a submissive who gets embarrassed easily, likes to feign annoyance, or wants to see how hard they can roll their eyes.